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moving away from material things
As parents, we set the example for our children. If we are overly concerned with what we have as compared to our friends, our children will display the same concerns. If we are obsessed with having the next best gadget or the hottest new style, our children will follow suit. We know that it is not possible for us to buy enough material items to achieve happiness. But do our kids? The average child sees 20,000 commercials a year. Combine this with magazine ads, peer pressure and celebrity endorsements and it’s no wonder our children have such a bad case of the “gimmies.” What can we as parents do to discourage materialism and
encourage behaviors and attitudes that honor God and show which Master we truly follow? Here are some ideas:
· Serve others.
Finding opportunities for kids to serve in the community is a great way to teach them that showing God’s love and helping others is what really makes a person happy. Plus, serving those who are less fortunate can really help kids appreciate what they have and not feel like they have to keep up with their peers. Also, sponsoring a child through a child advocacy ministry like Compassion International
can allow your children to make a personal connection with a needy child in another country. When a regular healthy meal and an education can help significantly improve a life, a pair of designer jeans may not look quite so important.
· Give stuff away.
Another way to teach your child the importance of thinking of others who might not have as much as they do is to encourage your kids to “hand down” items they no longer use to charitable organizations. Pick a day each season to clean out closets, bedrooms, the basement and the garage. Also consider swapping and sharing toys, videos, games and miscellaneous “kid stuff” with other families.
· Borrow, don’t buy.
As soon as they can write their names, help your children apply for and use a library card, which gives them free access to books, videos, music, computers and other resources for entertainment and learning. Using the library is a great way to learn that many of the things they like don’t need to be purchased.
· Set limits.
Agree to certain parameters about what you’ll spend money on: clothes, entertainment, and so on. If your children want higher-end options, help them make a plan to use their own money to make up the difference in cost. Ask your kids about their goals and dreams. Help them think about the resources (financial and otherwise) they will need to make these goals a reality.
· Explain why.
Talk with your children about how you make spending choices based on more than just affordability. For example, if a child asks for a toy you feel is overpriced, explain your values by saying, “We’re not going to spend our money that way because…” or “It’s not a good value because…” rather than just saying, “It’s too expensive,” which may give the impression that you would buy it if you could afford it.
Also, think about what you buy and why, and talk with your kids about your values when you shop. Are you influenced by advertising? Price? Quality of the product? What factors influence your choices? Engage your
children in conversations about how you make decisions about money. Knowing you are modeling and explaining may help you keep your own spending in check!
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